I’m barely 22 but I’ve had a lot of experiences that have forced me to learn. Financial crises, career choices, educational confusion, self-esteem issues, depression, wrong decisions, love, fuck boys, fake friends, losing loved ones, taking risks, joblessness. Each experience, at the time, seemed like the end of the road for me. It was tough, I…
Tag: feminism
It’s okay for a woman to pull the reins
When I was a child, I was told a lot of things. From the point when it was clear that I could understand the hidden meanings behind the words that were carelessly but guardedly thrown across the room, I became a piggy bank for the deposition of cultural wisdom. I was taught to clean, because it…
We Should all go Natural
It’s precisely 7 months since I picked up a scissors and chopped off my hair in frustration. I don’t quite remember what led to what, but I’m extremely sure the dominant emotion was that “I’d had enough”. It was bad enough that I had to constantly spend money on relaxing solutions and hair style…
Somewhere in your world
Somewhere in Iraq, Maheedah sleeps. It’s the first time she’d get to close her eyes in 5 days and as much as her aching muscles long for the temporary relief of the cold hard floor, her brain tremors with disapproval. There is nothing comforting about this sleep, nothing relaxing. The concrete floor is strewn with…
Letter to self
Dear self, It’s quite glaring that we are now in the twenty first century, however, its okay to hold on to your primitive personal values, given of course, that they do not affect others negatively so, if you’re not comfortable giving up your pride before marriage , don’t do it! Now, if you’re still trapped by the romanticized…
The Problem With Yemi Alade’s Message on Gender Equality
I was browsing through my discovery page on Instagram yesterday, when I saw a picture of Yemi Alade (Nigerian pop singer and BET nominee for Best International Act-Africa) holding a plaque that read “gender equality”. Being the amebo that I am, and a genuine admirer of her hard work and independence as reflected in the…
Lilian Ogbuefi 