Strong Girls Only- An Introduction

I’m barely 22 but I’ve had a lot of experiences that have forced me to learn. Financial crises, career choices, educational confusion, self-esteem issues, depression, wrong decisions, love, fuck boys, fake friends, losing loved ones, taking risks, joblessness. Each experience, at the time, seemed like the end of the road for me. It was tough, I…

It’s okay for a woman to pull the reins

When I was a child, I was told a lot of things. From the point when it was clear that I could understand the hidden meanings behind the words that were carelessly but guardedly thrown across the room, I became a piggy bank for the deposition of cultural wisdom. I was taught to clean, because it…

So you don’t have a Valentine

Tips for singles. The fact that you’re not in  a relationship doesn’t mean you should sit in a corner and keep to yourself this valentine. It’s a day of love and quite frankly, it shouldn’t take a significant other showering you with gifts to feel loved. Love yourself first of all, before requesting love from…

So you know you have a Valentine!

Tips for actual couples. It’s really soothing when you know where you stand in a relationship. It’s safe, comforting, and one less emotional hassle to worry about, until, of course, valentine day comes knocking around the corner and you have to spend your time conceiving unique ways to make you significant other happy; especially if…

We Should all go Natural

  It’s precisely 7 months since I picked up a scissors and chopped off my hair in frustration. I don’t quite remember what led to what, but I’m extremely sure the dominant emotion was that “I’d had enough”. It was bad enough that I had to constantly spend money on relaxing solutions and hair style…

Confessions

It’s 5:25am, the morning after Christmas; Fayetteville is still drowned in effortless sleep. There is pitch blackness and utter silence, Even the crickets seem to have gone to rest. My heart is racing, so I toss and turn, partly because my mild asthma, as the doctor called it, doesn’t seem so mild this winter, partly…

Epilogue

Prologue: Its 11pm in Atlanta. In an hour’s time, my phone would be flooded with Happy New Year texts and well wishes…or not, because I never respond to these stuff anyways and I expect my well-wishers to have gotten the hint by now…or not. My aunt decided we were going to attend a Redeem church…

We’re just friends

She says I should resist the devil and not call him tonight. I look at her misguidedly, like a little child who has been denied an extra ball of akara. I don’t need to hear it from her, I already told myself that I wasn’t going to call him anyways, that it was the smart,…

Letter to self

Dear self, It’s quite glaring that we are now in the twenty first century, however, its okay to hold on to your primitive personal values, given of course, that they do not affect others negatively so, if you’re not comfortable giving up your pride before marriage , don’t do it!  Now, if you’re still trapped by the romanticized…

The Problem With Yemi Alade’s Message on Gender Equality

I was browsing through my discovery page on Instagram yesterday, when I saw a picture of Yemi Alade (Nigerian pop singer and BET nominee for Best International Act-Africa) holding a plaque that read “gender equality”. Being the amebo that I am, and a genuine admirer of her hard work and independence as reflected in the…